The Enchanted Self           — by Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein

Gratitude Verses Positive Action
as a Path to Happiness

Gratitude is a marvelous practice, yet as a positive psychologist I have to share my clinical experiences.  It is not an easy practice! 

When we are down, whether we are grieving, sad, hurt, or maybe, unfortunately, a combination of these difficult feelings, we are not interested in running through a list of what has worked in our lives, or even how we have grown.  I often suggest to people that during these times we try instead the mental health gift of positive action. 

Whether we force ourselves to say hello to someone and admire their outfit or hairdo, or whether it comes easily to do a favor for someone, just giving out instead of going back inside of ourselves will improve our state of mind.  It may not work instantly, but it will work. 

Over the past few weeks, since New Year's, I've been practicing saying, "Happy New Year" to strangers.  They are pleased, although sometimes surprised.  Me, I have felt good many moments when I might not have otherwise!  Try it, you'll like it.

— © Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein

In private practice since 1981, Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, psychologist and originator of The Enchanted Self, has committed to bring the keys of enchantment to the world.

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