The Enchanted Self           — by Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein

Finding Happiness even after Valentine's Day has passed!


Happy Post Valentine's Day to all of you! 

 

For those who would like to review how you wish to be loved and to practice getting the love you need by better connecting with the deepest positive facets of yourself, feel free to jump into Martha Trowbridge's wonderful mental exercise from her new book. 

 

Enjoy!  Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, www.enchantedself.com

 

FROM: WINGS OF SELF-LOVE by Martha Trowbridge

                Copyright 2007 Martha Trowbridge


How Do You Want To Be Loved?

If you dare ;-),

go to your sad heart,

and

imagining you hold in your hands

a fairy-godmother dust broom,

gently sweep away the cobwebs

that have accumulated

over your heart.

 

Now,

allow your Spirit to

lovingly, tenderly

'Embrace Your Heart'.

 

With great respect,

gently close your weary eyes

and

lovingly,

'hold' your heart.

 

Imagine:

you are a young girl who's never been hurt

let down

abused

threatened

terrified

depressed

worn out

violated

or who has experienced any such horrible thing.

 

Oh, how blessed are 

these girls and women!

 

Imagine further:

without interruption

or nay-saying,

you are permitted to dream

the most wonderful dream!

You are loved,

really and truly loved

by a wonderful mate.

 

Now!

for the real magic:

imagine you can create in this mate

the perfect type of love for you

a love that satisfies and honors

all your unique needs and loves and passions.

What would this love be like?

 

What I'm asking, simply, is:

How Do You Want to Be Loved?

 

For example:

You want to be loved:

proudly

tenderly

with great passion

with delight, and celebration

without reservation

with appreciation

with profound loyalty.

You want to be loved openly.

Brightly!

With great care and attention.

With great nurturance.

You want a love that ever-demonstrates

the purest of respect for you.

You want a steadfast love.

A love that can be quietly with you

for hours upon end --

a peaceful, content love.

A love that brilliantly radiates back to you

your inner beauty

your purity of heart

your sweet girlish Spirit.

 

So........

pick up your pencil and note-paper

and tell me:

How do YOU want to be loved? :-)

 

As you contemplate how you want to be loved,

an important first step toward achieving this love is to practice it on your self.

 

Valentine Blessings,

Martha Trowbridge

 

— © Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein

In private practice since 1981, Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, psychologist and originator of The Enchanted Self, has committed to bring the keys of enchantment to the world.

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