The Enchanted Self           — by Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein

Coming Home to Your True Self

Many of you know that I have written quite a few books.  You might wonder what stimulated me to write my latest book THE TRUTH:  I'm a Girl, I'm Smart and I Know Everything. One day I began to think, how can I write a book that will just spark everyone? If you are a woman, it will make you want to dance with yourself and with your inner 10 year old and you will want to make her a part of yourself again. And you will want to let the fire in your belly come alive and have fun.

If you are a mom, then you will see your child in a different and profound light.  You will fall in love with the wisdom and the talents that lurk within in.  Her struggles will make more sense and she will annoy you less.

If you are a kid or a tween, you will feel a connection to the fictional girl; you will feel understood because she is like you and she thinks about many of the things you think about.  She even makes promises to herself, things she will never do when she grows up.  And probably you make promises yourself-like promising to never have silly fights or talking behind someone's back or throwing litter.

As the 'girl' began to come alive, I felt a diary was the best voice for her.  I guess she thought so too, because basically she took over and formulated her own book. Not only did she share her frustrations and her triumphs, the highs and lows of her first crush, but she managed to solve a wonderful little mystery about how she would successfully grow up. The solution was so simplistic, yet so endearing. I can't give it away because I want you to read the book.

Yes, the girl sees so much and knows so much.  And didn't we all at 10 or 11?  And wouldn't it be great to hold on to the energy and confidence that goes with that stage of life?  So that we all can live lives of integrity and keep our promises?  As the girl says, "I'll travel a lot.  I won't look away when my kids ask my tough questions.  I'll answer truthfully.  I won't swear.  I won't get into silly fights with my husband.  I'll have fun with my kids and laugh a lot.  I'll remember ME! And that's the truth."

When we come home to the 'truth' for ourselves then we are happy, we have purpose, our lives have meaning. As a positive psychologist I know that striving to live true to ourselves is not trivial.  It is essential for feeling complete and whole.  Read and enjoy THE TRUTH:  I'm a Girl, I'm Smart and I Know Everything and remember when you are finished to do your self a favor and be sure to come home to yourself.

— © Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein

In private practice since 1981, Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, psychologist and originator of The Enchanted Self, has committed to bring the keys of enchantment to the world.

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