Thought
for the Week —
by
Give Up Reacting
When I was growing up I had an angel placed in my life to
sow the seeds of my purpose deep within my heart. My angel’s name was Kathi
Amanda Vaden and she was my stepmother.
I honestly believe before I got here she, God and I sat down for a
powwow to determine the most effective way to drive home a point and to sow it so
deep within my soul I would never forget.
What point was that?
The point is that everyone has a case of multiple
personalities and when left unchecked one lives a life of misery, pain, and
fear…in other words, sheer hell. But the
good news is that it doesn’t have to be this way, and that is why I am
here.
Each of us has control of our own destiny.
It is simply a matter of waking up and taking our power back.
My stepmother lived a life of hell. She truly had Multiple Personality
Disorder. She had a traumatic childhood,
adolescence and early adulthood. And
even though the abuse stopped there, every day for the rest of her life—before
she took it—was full of fear, pain, anger, great sadness and confusion…again,
pure hell.
My friends, that is no way to
live. Yet how many of us live this
way? And worse, how many of us live this
way without being aware of it?
You cannot control what you are not aware of. You cannot become aware unless you look your
pain and fear in the eyes. You cannot
look unless you want to see change.
Each of us has a slight case of multiple personalities, meaning
that we can be triggered by something outside of ourselves and totally do a 180º
turn in how we are feeling, what we are thinking and how we are acting. Observe yourself on any given day. How many times have you gone from happy to
sad to angry to frustrated to happy to elated to whatever?
It doesn’t matter if you go from happy to sad or from sad to
happy, what is important to note is that in either case you are in reaction
mode. Reaction mode is definitely no way
to live. Not only does it exhaust you to
no ends, it is not even coming from you at your core. Reaction means that you are not living in the
here and now—the present, the only time within your control. Reaction means you are looking at everything
out there and not at anything in here—in you, in your heart, in God.
Reaction means that you have given your power away, again.
Have compassion for yourself. However old you are, that is how many years
of training you have had to learn to be the way you are. Give yourself the space and grace to learn a
new way of being. It’s only fair and makes sense.
Know that reaction means a fear/pain has been
triggered. Reaction means your ego
(which truly thinks it is helping you, but is really trying to preserve itself)
is trying to protect you by having you look everywhere but within. Reaction means you aren’t conscious, and
therefore have no control until you do become conscious.
We fear the pain within.
It is so deep, feels so unbearable, and looks so insurmountable. This is a lie. The only way out is to go straight through
the middle. The only way out is to
dig your feet in and to ask yourself and God to see you through. Speed doesn’t matter. You can crawl straight through the
middle if you need to. The
only thing that matters is the going through.
Going back to the center, going back to the love, going back to healing,
going back to God and the true you.
My friends, I walk beside you. I have done a lot of healing and react less
and less. But still, there are areas in
which I react, specifically relationships with significant others. I share this so you will have further faith
and compassion for yourself. It takes
time to totally heal this “disorder.”
Healing is like peeling back the layers of an onion. You get good in one area and another one
pokes its head up to remind you that there is still work to do. Your wins in the other areas serve as
reinforcement to see you through the new and deeper levels. Instead of feeling like a painful chore that
will never end, I promise you, it turns onto a game of miraculous
healings!
There are only two choices in any instance. You can live in fear or you can live in
love. You can live by reacting or you
can live by acting on purpose. You
can live in the past or you can live in the present. While you are here on earth you can live in
hell or you can live in heaven.
Take back your power and your life, the time is now …
It is Time to
Take Control of Your Life.
Give Up
Reacting and Act on Purpose.
— ©
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