Sir Froggie’s Pondering
Ancient Amphibious Wisdom for a Modern Day World
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BE YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND!
Have you ever wished for someone to always rely on, someone who’s there through thick and thin? Have you wanted somebody to encourage you and champion your dreams? Do you desire that special person who will give you a hand up when you’re feeling down?
Be your own best friend!
Many of us make great friends for other people – or even our pets – bet when it comes to ourselves, that friendship is at the top of our Most Wanted list and nowhere to be found.
There are times each of us becomes our own best friend or worst enemy. There can be no greater enemy than ourselves because no one else knows our greatest fears, deepest secrets, what makes us tick, what makes us run, or our most treasured hopes, dreams, and aspirations. When we fall victim to the enemy within ourselves (which some may call the ego, inner critic or saboteur), it gets hold of every bit of material it can find to use against us. The Enemy amplifies and magnifies our deepest darkest fears so everything seems to be against us. All the while, the real enemy is within.
The challenge is recognizing when The Enemy has gotten a grip on us and distinguishing this aspect of ourselves from our True Self.
It’s good to frequently step back to detach from our thoughts, feelings, and emotions and observe what’s going on within. If it’s anything less than positive, we can be assured we’re operating under influence of The Enemy. Just like alcohol or other addictive substances, The Enemy will distort reality. And just like alcohol, when we realize we’re under the influence, it’s time to call in a friend before we drive ourselves crazy.
Which friend should we call? Our Best Friend, of course! The Best Friend within us. Just like there’s an enemy aspect of ourselves, there’s a best friend aspect too! (This is sometimes referred to as our Higher Self, Wise Self, or Divine Self.) It’s important we get to know and trust our Best Friend because our Best Friend will always be there to rescue us from the stranglehold of The Enemy.
Be forewarned: The Enemy can yell so loud and be so distracting it will make hearing our Best Friend a challenge. The Enemy wants to be our driving force. It wants us to believe all those nasty things it says so we feel powerless and continue to rely on it. But our Best Friend, like any good friend, has our best interest and highest good in mind. It wants to empower us so we can stand on our own!
How can we get through to our Best Friend when The Enemy is present? Begin by asking questions – and listening for answers!
What would I advise my best friend to do in this situation? (Think of an external best friend, your Best Friend within or both!)
What would I be willing to do for my best friend in this situation?
What would my best friend be willing to do for me?
What could my inner Best Friend do to help me through this right now?
What would my Best Friend advise me to do?
If I were my own Best Friend what would I do right now?
What course of action(s) would be for my highest good?
Most often asking these questions will be enough to break through The Enemy’s tantrum. But there are times when The Enemy has such as tight grip, it will try to persist. If that’s the situation, we can tell it to go away for now. It’s our Best Friend’s turn and our Best Friend comes first.
In addition to using the Best Friend approach, we can also ask these questions of our inner Doctor, Career Advisor, Counselor, or Spiritual Guide. What would they advise us to do? It may help to visualize someone we know in these roles such as our current doctor or minister, but if they’re not ideal, think of what the ideal doctor or minister would say if we were to approach them with our current scenario. This helps take us out of The Enemy’s grip and shift our thinking to a higher perspective.
Although it is always there to support us, sometimes we may have to do some self nurturing before we can actually hear the voice of our Best Friend or our inner guidance system. It’s a good idea to make a list of things which feel very nurturing and loving… like a big hug from God. Often little things will do the trick… a salt water bath with lavender and frankincense, a funny movie, a cappuccino with a chocolate chip cookie, taking a walk, etc. Whatever invokes feeling good goes on the list! When The Enemy comes around, it’s time to do something from the nurturing list and connect with our Best Friend.
Most importantly, it’s time to be your own Best Friend!
— © January 27th, 2008, Sir Froggie &
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