Today’s Kindness Suggestion is dedicated to Linda Stark and Maria Pintar


Last year I had the most difficult time I’ve ever had picking out a card for Mom for Mother’s Day. It had to be just right. It had to say everything I ever wanted her to know. It had to let her know how much I loved her, how grateful I am for her, how much I appreciated her being my Mom. This card would be more important than any other card I had ever given Mom. It just had to be perfect.

After over an hour of searching the third store I’d gone to, and failing miserably at holding back the tears on multiple occasions, I finally picked one and decided I would write a letter to tell Mom whatever the card didn’t say.

I was a mess and needed to pick myself up before proceeding with the rest of the day. I was also a bit hungry and decided to stop at my favorite coffee and gelato shop.

As I was waiting for my gelato, the man in line in front of me griped the entire time about how he shouldn’t have to get a card for his mom just because someone had declared it Mother’s Day and transformed it into total commercialism. He lamented his resentment about how he should be able to do as he pleased when he wanted, not just because you’re supposed to.

It took every ounce of self-control I had not to punch the guy flat. I finally could hold my tongue no more and quietly said, “At least you have a mom to give a card to.”

This year I would give anything to be able to give Mom a card. She died on June 02nd last year, just three weeks after Mother’s Day.

Although I still miss her terribly, I am so incredibly grateful for Mother’s Day! I am grateful that it prompted me to listen to love. I am grateful that Mother’s Day gave me the perfect opportunity to tell Mom how much I love her and how proud of her I am. I am so grateful I didn’t let my ego’s rebellion complain about the commercialism of the holiday or the unjust of having to show we care just because we’re supposed to. How unjust would it be if we never got the opportunity to let our loved ones know we care?

Holidays are designed to be holy days by nature…Days we recognize the sacredness of Life, people, a Higher Power. Sure, most have been targeted by commercialism. But that’s not what they’re about. They’re there to help us take time to hold something or someone in the reverence they deserve because most people are too busy to do so unless prompted to by a holiday.

So I urge you, whether it’s for Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, Memorial Day, Birthdays, Anniversaries, or any other day, listen to the guidance of Love.

You’ll be glad you did.

~ © Rev. Jeanette M. Pintar