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Michael Angier  

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Michael Angier
Author of Success Strategies

Michael Angier shares his secrets of success in Success Strategies every Friday.

 


Michael grew up on a Vermont farm and farmed for several years before getting involved in the "Science of Success." He likes to say that everything he learned about success, he learned as a farmer and he believes in what Stephen Covey calls the "Law of the Farm."

In a way, he thinks that he's still farming. It's just that instead of growing plants and livestock, he's growing people. He says, "In order to have healthy and growing organizations, you need healthy and growing people". By putting people first, you can build an exceptional company.


And that's Michael's passion - trying to realize his potential by helping others realize their own. His writing, his training and his companies are all about helping people operate at their personal and professional best.

Michael is the founder and president of Success Networks International based in South Burlington, Vermont USA. He's a father, husband, writer, speaker, entrepreneur, coach and student.

Michael's work has been featured in numerous publications such as USA Today, Selling Power, Home Business Magazine, Opportunity World, and Sales & Marketing Excellence as well as dozens of electronic publications. He's been interviewed on both TV and radio.

Mr. Angier has experienced personal and professional success, but he's also suffered bitter defeat. Although certainly preferring the former, he feels that he's learned the most from his struggles and disappointments. He feels that life's greatest lessons are learned by overcoming the obstacles in the path of a challenging and worthwhile objective.

Michael is married to Dawn Angier - his partner, best friend, mentor, teacher, student and confidant. They have six children. He enjoys sailing, tennis, traveling, reading and helping people realize their dreams.




"Someday, after mastering winds, waves, tides and gravity, we shall harness the energy of love; 
and for the second time in the history of the world, man will have discovered fire."

---Pierre Teilhard de Chardin




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"In a gentle way, you can shake the world."

---Mahatma Gandhi

 

 

 

 

 

Success Strategies

The following  Success Strategies HAVE APPEARED IN SFPNN in 2012. 
 

05/25/12


What’s Your Definition of Success?

05/18/12


The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us

05/11/12


The Perspective of Experience

05/04/12


Bill Gates on His 11 Rules of Life

04/27/12


New and Different vs. Old and the Same

04/20/12


What’s the Problem? Are You Sure?

04/13/12


Are You Growing Weeds in Your Life and Business?

04/06/12


Are You Coasting? Are You Sure?

03/30/12


Attitude is Everything

03/23/12


MONEYBALL: A New Approach to an Old Game

03/16/12


Bed of Nails

03/09/12


How Are You & Your Business Adapting to the 21st Century?

03/02/12


Can You Tell a Good Story?

02/24/12


Love is in the Air

02/17/12


Tired Of Average? Let's Be Remarkable!

02/10/12


What One Thing Would Make the Difference?

02/03/12


Not My Best: 2012 Was a Challenging Year

 

 

 

 

Success Strategies

The following  Success Strategies HAVE APPEARED IN SFPNN in 2011. 
 

05/27/11


5 Stages of Relationships

05/20/11


Step Back to Gain Perspective

05/13/11


New & Different vs. Tried & True

05/06/11


My Book of Lists

04/29/11


Staying Afloat AND  Moving Toward Your Goal

04/22/11


Clarity Leads to Power

04/15/11


The Power of Words

04/08/11


Uh-oh! The First Quarter of 2011 is History!

04/01/11


A Good Way to Evaluate Your Business

03/25/11


Our Attachments Create Our Unhappiness

03/18/11


Are You Ready to Overcome Overwhelm?

03/11/11


How Big is Your Prosperity Pipeline?

03/04/11


Questions are the Answer

02/25/11


The New CEO

02/18/11


One of My Most Admired People in History

02/11/11


Is Goal Planning Overrated?

02/04/11


The Ice Man: Unbelievable But True

01/28/11


Yes, It's Your Job to Feel Good

01/21/11


I Have a Dream -- Do You?

 

 

 

 

 

Success Strategies

The following  Success Strategies HAVE APPEARED IN SFPNN in 2010. 

 

12/10/10


The Secret: Did You Miss It Too?

12/03/10


Your Biggest Expense Is...

11/19/10


Turning Things Around

11/12/10


Do You Choose Wisely?

11/05/10


Intentions Without Attachment

10/29/10


I LOVE Paying Bills!

10/22/10


You Are NOT Your Business

10/15/10


The Real Reason I Read, "Think and Grow Rich"

10/08/10


Profit is Not the Purpose of Business

10/01/10


My Declaration of Interdependence

09/24/10


Adventures in the Leaves

09/17/10


Top Ten Things to Think About if You Want to Change the World

05/28/10


Are You Sure You Have the Right Tools?

05/21/10


The Simple Truths of Service

05/14/10


Are You Willing to Fight For Your Freedom?

05/07/10


Get Knocked Down and Bounce Right Back!

04/30/10


A 2.4 Million Personality

04/23/10


Who Believed in You?

04/16/10


Let's Clean This Place Up!

04/09/10


Your Key People

04/02/10


Getting Clear on Your Fear

03/26/10


How Full is Your Cup?

03/19/10


Forget Your Failings - Focus on Your Feats:
Your Win List and Your Significant Accomplishments List

03/12/10


How Are You Adapting to the New Normal?

03/05/10


The 11th Commandment

02/26/10


What Worked, What Didn't, What's Next?

02/19/10


Giving and Receiving

02/12/10


Telling the Truth is a Loving Act

02/05/10


WHO'S ONE YOUR TEAM? 
You DO Have a Team, Right?

01/29/10


Are You Feeling Alone on the Road to Success?

01/22/10


What Skills Will You Learn in 2010?

 

 

 

 

 

Success Strategies

The following  Success Strategies HAVE APPEARED IN SFPNN in 2009. 

 

12/11/09


The Rule of Three

12/04/09


The Art of Inspiration

11/20/09


The Art of Gratefulness

11/13/09


Is This the Way You Talk to Yourself?

11/06/09


The Four Stages of Learning

10/30/09


Your Distinctive Mark

10/23/09


An Upset is the Opportunity to See the Truth

10/16/09


CHANGE HAPPENS: How to Accept, Navigate and Master Change

10/09/09


Building People Up

10/02/09


Our Self Esteem

09/25/09


Handling Frustrations

09/18/09


Positive Thinking

05/18/09


Why Would I Promote a Competitor?  And Should You?

05/11/09


What Experts Say About Business Failures and Why They're Wrong - Pt 2 of 2

05/04/09


What Experts Say About Business Failures and Why They're Wrong - Pt 1 of 2

04/27/09


Yosemite's Half Dome: A Metaphor for Your Business?

04/20/09


A Confused Mind Takes No Action

04/13/09


Consistency: A Major Key to Your Success

04/06/09


Don't Tolerate, Be Happy

03/30/09


What's the Shape of Your Company?

03/23/09


The Drama of "The Gap"

03/20/09


Ten Ways to Support Someone in Being Their Best

03/16/09


Get Back on Top of Things

03/09/09


When's the Last Time You Upgraded Your Business?

03/02/09


How Much Do You Really Know About Your Business? 
As Much as You Know About Your Car?

02/23/09


Staying Ahead of the Game

02/16/09


A Purpose Driven Life Isn't Quite Enough

02/09/09


Will More Information Make You Successful

02/02/09


Best Way to Brighten Up Your Business During Dark Times

01/26/09


Do You Have Job Security?

01/19/09


What's Your Stimulation Plan for 2009?

 





Success Strategies

The following  Success Strategies HAVE APPEARED IN SFPNN in 2008. 

 

12/08/08


The Weight of our Words

12/01/08


Live the Dream

11/24/08


A Thanksgiving Gift for You

11/17/08


Set SMART Goals

11/10/08


What do You Value Most?

11/03/08


Raise the Bar

10/27/08


The Top Ten Ways to Stay Focused on Your Objectives

10/20/08


Our Checklists

10/13/08


Scientific Proof Struggling to get Rich Doesn't Work

10/06/08


Turn Your Ideas into Income

09/29/08


Are You Suffering from the Not-Enough Effect?

09/22/08


Michael Angier for President?!

09/15/08


Your Beliefs: How are they Working for You?

09/08/08


What's Your Vision?

05/19/08


It Really was a Perfect Day

05/12/08


Creating and Living Your Vision

05/05/08


Do You Confuse Activity with Accomplishment?

04/28/08


Clarity Leads to Power

04/21/08


It's the Questions that Lead to Clarity

04/14/08


Are You Consistent With Your Business Practices?

04/07/08


Getting Your Business to Work Without You

03/31/08


So Let It Be Written, So Let it Be Done.

03/24/08


Do Your Goals Have Enough Gravity?

03/17/08


What Kind of "Experience" do You Give Your Customers?

03/10/08


Have You Lost Your Focus?

03/03/08


When Is It Great Enough?

02/25/08


Why More Information Will Not Make You More Successful

02/18/08


It's So Easy to Kid Yourself

02/11/08


A Penny Saved is NOT a Penny Earned

02/04/08


How Many New Year's Resolutions Have You Kept?

01/28/08


Gaining Trust Isn't Easy; But Losing It Is

01/21/08


Announcing SuccessNet Forums

01/14/08


OUR PRIORITIES: Doing What Matters Most


 


 

 

 

 


Success Strategies

The following  Success Strategies HAVE APPEARED IN SFPNN in 2007. 
 

12/10/07


Was This Your Biggest Problem?

12/03/07


Would You Pay $9 for a Gallon of Gas?

11/26/07


I'm Living My Dream:
But How Did I Get Here?

11/19/07


Stretch Your Mind

11/12/07


When do You Set Your Goals for the New Year?

11/05/07


Special Invitation:  Get a Great Jump-Start on 2008

10/29/07


What Stands in the Way of Your Success?

10/22/07


Do You Have a Dream Job?

10/15/07


Yes, You DO Have a Brand

10/08/07


Resources You Can Use Today

10/01/07


She Laughed When My Pants Fell Down

09/24/07


Are Your Disappointed in Yourself?

09/17/07


A Preview of Coming Attractions

09/10/07


What Do Your Expect?

05/21/07


(21 of the...) 101 Things I've Learned in 50 Trips Around the Sun

05/14/07


I Can't Keep It All Together

05/07/07


Your Biggest Expense Is...

04/30/07


I Can't Keep It All Together

04/23/07


The Day That Turns Your Life Around

04/16/07


The Lowly 3x5 Index Card

04/09/07


Success Net's Tax Pain is Your Gain

04/02/07


What Most People Missed in The Secret

03/26/07


Why You Cant Afford to Say, "I Can't Afford It"

03/19/07


Watch The Secret  for Free

03/12/07


How Would You Like to Put Up a Website
— In Just a Few Hours?

03/05/07


Join us in Green Lakes, WI,  This May!

02/26/07


Where are You Going?  Are You Sure?

02/19/07


How are You Dealing with the New Normal?

02/12/07


Top Ten Things to Think About if You Want to Change the World

02/05/07


A Boring Cruise?  Are You Kidding?

01/29/07


The Deadliest Words in Any Language

01/22/07


Do You Know What You Want?  Are You Sure?

01/15/07


Do You Know the Reasons Why You Don't Achieve More Success?



 


 

 

 

 

Success Strategies

The following  Success Strategies HAVE APPEARED IN SFPNN in 2006. 

12/11/06


Essential E-mail Etiquette

by Guest Author, Dawn Angier

12/04/06


Are You Making New Connections?

11/27/06


How Good is Your Network?

11/20/06


Buying Online: 
How Safe Is It?

11/13/06


When are Your Ships Coming in?

11/06/06


Are You Requesting or Demanding?

10/30/06


Are We Clear?

10/23/06


Creating Systems that Work for You

10/16/06


You're Personal Library of Knowledge

10/09/06


Celebrating Success Net's 10th Anniversary

10/02/06


Getting Clear on Your Fear

09/25/06


The Positive, The Powerful, and the Proven

09/18/06


Are You Motivated or Inspired?

09/11/06


New Beginnings

05/22/06


OUR PRIORITIES: Doing What Matters Most

05/15/06


CHANGE HAPPENS: How to Accept, Navigate and Master Change

05/08/06


SIMPLIFYING OUR LIFE: We WANTED to Before, Now We Will

05/01/06


BUILD ON YOUR STRENGTHS:  improve the Things You're Already Good at Doing

04/17/06


Actions Speak Louder Than Words

03/27/06


CONSISTENCY: The Major Key to Your Success

03/20/06


Forget your Failings—
Focus on Your Feats

03/13/06


Is it a Problem or a Project?

03/03/06


THE NEW AVERAGE:  How Average Has Become Excellent

02/27/06


Staying on Track

02/20/06


Have You Ever Been Intimidated?

02/13/06


The Gift of Gratefulness

02/06/06


You Have to Start Over

01/30/06


You Have More of a Team than You Think

01/23/06


The Ball Doesn't Remember—The Past Doesn't Matter

01/16/06


T
he Stages of a Project

01/09/06


HITTING SOME OUT OF THE PARK:
The Excitement of Personal Home Runs



 

 


Success Strategies

 The following  Success Strategies HAVE APPEARED IN SFPNN in 2005. 

12/12/05


A Purpose Driven Life isn't Quite Enough

12/05/05


Telling the Truth is a Loving Act

11/28/05


Good Judgment vs Being Judgmental

11/21/05


Is There a Limit to Prosperity?

11/14/05


Letting Go of "Stuff"

11/07/05


Staying Ahead of the Game

10/31/05


is This What It's Like to Die?

10/24/05


Honor, Respect, and Acknowledgment

10/17/05


How to Lighten Up and Not be so Hard on Yourself

10/10/05


How Much Responsibility Should We Take?

09/26/05


What's it Mean to be Your Best?

09/19/05


What's Really Behind Lance Armstrong's Spectacular Success?

09/12/05


When Nothing Goes According To Plan
By Guest Author Sarah Pond

05/23/05


DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT:
Stand Out and Step Up Your Profits

05/16/05


What Do They Really Want?

05/12/05


Who's on Your Team?

05/09/05


Too Much Information

05/02/05


Who's on Your Team?

04/25/05


Are You A "Can Do" Person?

04/18/05


Staying on Track

04/11/05


Are Your Eyes Wide Open?

04/04/05


Developing Good Judgment

03/28/05


Getting Back To Basics

03/21/05


Is Your Relationship a Ten?

03/07/05


The Trouble With Sam

02/28/05


Dressing for Success

02/21/05


But What About When it's Not A Great Day?

02/14/05


Make it a GREAT Day!

02/07/05


Your Unique Selling Proposition

01/31/05


Do I Have to Answer That?

01/24/05


The Six Human Needs

01/17/05


It's the Only Body You're Going to Get

01/10/05


Your Ideal Client, Job, Employee



 

 

 

 

 

Success Strategies

The following  Success Strategies HAVE APPEARED IN SFPNN in 2004. 

12/20/04


You Can't  UN-Ring a Bell

12/13/04


Criticism

12/06/04


Be Responsible

11/29/04


Don't Take Yourself Too Seriously

11/22/04


Top 10 Ways To Create Breakthroughs

11/15/04


Our Checklists

11/08/04


Don't Let Anyone Steal Your Dream

11/01/04


Political Views

10/25/04


is That The Best You Can Do?

10/18/04


Your Market Value

10/11/04


101 Goals

10/04/04


Don't Tolerate, Be Happy

09/27/04


What Side of the Glass are You on?

05/21/04


Renewal

05/17/04


The Cycles of Our Lives

05/10/04


Your Win List

05/03/04


Your Key People

04/26/04


Your Success is an Inside Job

04/19/04


Truth or Consequences:
If I'm Lying, I'm Dying

04/12/04


How Joint Ventures Can Catapult You to Success

04/05/04


Enlightened Leadership Needs Illumination

03/29/04


Shake Things Up

03/22/04


What Steering Your Ship?

03/08/04


Is Your Company the Real McCoy?

03/01/04


More Focusing Questions

02/23/04


Focusing Questions

02/16/04


What's an Idea Worth?

02/09/04


Expectancy

02/02/04


INSPIRATION: The Art of Breathing In

01/26/04


The Art of Inspiration

01/19/04


Your Words Do Make a Difference

01/12/04


To Goal Or Not To Goal -- Resources to Help You Achieve:
Books, Tools, Programs, Services, to Get What You Want

01/05/04


A Different Approach to Goal Setting



 

 



 

Success Strategies

The following  Success HAVE APPEARED IN SFPNN I 2003.

12/15/03


You, Inc.

12/08/03


Thanks for The Reminder

12/01/03


Do You Know Your Neighbors?

11/24/03


My Life at a Glance

11/17/03


Take Care of What You Have

11/10/03


The Information Age
by Guest Author, Sarah Pond

11/03/03


The Drama of "The Gap"

10/27/03


The Problem Is...

10/20/03


STAYING POWER:
Building an Organization that Lasts

10/13/03


Do What Works and Stop Doing What Doesn't

10/06/03


Faster than the Speed of Thought

09/29/03


Feedback Really Is the Breakfast of Champions

09/22/03


Ten Ways to Foster Innovation

09/15/03


What's In Your Toolbox?

09/08/03


Make It So:  Getting Things Done

08/25/03


Are You Efficient and Effective?

06/02/03


Our Unique Potential

05/19/03


If You Build It, They Will Come

05/05/03


Top 10 Ways to Inspire Others to be Their Best

04/28/03


The Meaning of Success

04/25/03


Free at Last, Free at Last!

04/21/03


The Willingness to be Unpopular -- 
Fitting In Can Be Very Costly In Deed.

04/14/03


Handling Problems IS Our Job:
It's All in How You Hold It!

04/07/03


Step Back and Gain a New Perspective

03/31/03


Be Aware of the Enemies to Our Success

03/24/03


What are You Tolerating in Your Life?

03/10/03


Top Ten Ways to Deal With Overwhelm

03/03/03


Positive Thinking

02/24/03


One plus One Does NOT Equal Two

02/17/03


No More Struggle

02/10/03


Some Thoughts on the Loss of the Columbia

02/03/03


Our Priorities:  Doing What Matters Most

01/27/03


Differentiate Yourself

01/20/03


You Have a Dream

01/13/03


An Upset is an Opportunity to See the Truth

01/06/03


Giving and Receiving

 

   

 

 

 

 

Success Strategies

The following  Success sTRATEGIES HAVE APPEARED IN SFPNN IN 2002.

12/16/02


Keeping Your Life in Balance

12/09/02


How To Stay Motivated:
A Purpose to Live for, A Self to Live With, and a Faith to Live By.

12/02/02


Never Give Up

11/25/02


Reserve Power

11/18/02


Improving Your Effectiveness

11/11/02


Visualize Your Success --
How Visualization Can Become Reality

11/04/02


Adventure In The Leaves

10/28/02


Entrepreneur and Intrepreneur

10/21/02


Greater Competency Means Smoother Sailing

10/14/02


The Principle of Vacuum

10/07/02


Our Freedom Under Attack -- What We Can Do

09/30/02


Your Agreements Show Your Integrity

09/23/02


METRICS Make a Difference - And Money, Too!

09/16/02


Get What You Want!

08/19/02


We Named Her "Attitude"

08/12/02


A Miracle From An Angel

08/05/02


Building People Up

07/29/02


A GLOBAL NETWORK
How to Cash In one the New International Currency

07/22/02


Organization

07/15/02


Authenticity and Originality

07/08/02


Financial Independence

07/01/02


Business Is All About Relationships

06/24/02


Going For It

06/17/02


Building Solid Foundations

06/10/02


Ten Thousand Failures

06/03/02


Leaders are Readers

05/27/02


Tribute to J. Francis Angier

05/20/02


Say "Yes!" or "No!"

05/13/02


INNOVATION
Ideas are Cheap, but Extremely Valuable.

05/06/02


Keep It Short and Simple
The KISS Formula

04/29/02


Living Full Out, 100%, No Matter What

04/22/02


Your Sacred Life Book

04/15/02


Our Production Capacity

04/08/02


Ask The Magic Question

04/01/02


Gaining A New Perspective

03/25/02


One Step at a Time

03/18/02


Position Yourself For Success

03/11/02


The A-C-T Formula for Change: Acknowledge, Choose & Track

03/04/02


Handling Frustrations

02/25/02


Getting Down In The Dirt

02/18/02


The Lost Art of Thinking

02/11/02


16 Tips For Becoming A Better Writer

02/04/02


The Blessing In Adversity

01/28/02


The Playing Field Has Been Leveled --
And It's Time For You To Play!

01/21/02


Setting S-M-A-R-T Goals

01/14/02


Leadership and Character

01/07/02


The Rule of Three



 

 

 


Success Strategies 

The following  Success sTRATEGIES HAVE APPEARED IN SFPNN IN 2001.

12/17/01


Clean Out the Yuck in Your Life!

12/10/01


Reflections -- A Top Ten List of Year-End Questions

12/03/01


Listen, Pause, Clarify, and Validate

11/26/01


Taking Care of Yourself - It's Not a Selfish Act

11/19/01


Personal Development

11/12/01


Systematize, Systematize, Systematize

11/05/01


Live The Dream

10/29/01


What's The Truth In This Situation?

10/22/01


New Beginnings

10/15/01


Kicking The Worry Habit

10/08/01


Top Ten Ways To Handle Email Overload

10/01/01


How To Get Re-Motivated

09/24/01


From Tragedy To Triumph

09/17/01


The Experiences of Our Lives

08/27/01


The 11th Commandment:
Thou Shalt Not Should On Thyself (or Others.)

08/20/01


Clarity of Purpose--Living A Rich Life

08/13/01


Why I'm Bullish on America

08/06/01


What Happens When We Don't Make It?

07/30/01


How Full Is Your Cup?

07/23/01


Top Ten Things To Think About
If You Want To Change The World



 


 

 


 

"Consciously or unconsciously, every one of us 
does render some service or other. 
If we cultivate the habit of doing this service deliberately, 
our desire for service will steadily grow stronger
 
and we will make not only our own happiness, 
but that of the world at large."

---Mahatma Gandhi




"Where you are in consciousness has everything to do with what you see in experience."
Eric Butterworth





101 Things I’ve Learned in My
50 Trips Around the Sun


Some fun, some profound and a few painful things
I’ve come to know as I approach middle age.


By Michael E. Angier

5/21/2001

Copyright © 2001, Michael Angier




101 Things I’ve Learned in My 50 Trips Around the Sun

In recording these insights and nuggets of wisdom, I hasten to say that I have much more to learn. As it’s been said many times, "The more I know, the more I know I don’t know."

When I left college in 1969, I promised myself I would study harder out of school than in it. I’ve kept that promise. Although some would say it wasn’t that hard to keep, given how little I studied while in school. Nonetheless, I’m committed to a lifelong quest for knowledge and wisdom.

Marcel Proust wrote, "We don’t receive wisdom; we must discover it for ourselves after a journey that no one can take for us or spare us." I trust that this fiftieth birthday is only an early milestone on a long road and that I’m still in the quest for wisdom even as I draw my last breath.

I’m grateful to all the learned—and sometimes not-so-learned—people I’ve read about, met, lived with and loved who have taught me so much. Some have been shining examples and positive models. Others have been warnings. I appreciate both.

Some of these things I’ve learned easily and quickly. Others required more of a "Mack Truck Approach". And sometimes I needed to be run over more than once in order for me to get it.


Nonetheless, here are 101 things I’ve learned
—and many times RE-learned—
in my first fifty years.

1. Life isn’t fair. I’ve said it to myself and my kids have said it hundreds of times. I always agreed with them. I only wish I’d had this answer for them: Life ISN’T fair—it’s fantastic.

2. It’s better to talk less and say more. And that’s easier said than done.

3. Worry is not a virtue. I used to think you weren’t a responsible person unless you worried about things. What kind of parent doesn’t worry about their children? What I’ve come to know is that worry is like prayer in reverse. What you worry about is what you attract.

4. It’s easier to gain weight than it is to take it off. Like I needed 50 years to learn that! A waist is a terrible thing to mind.

5. When arguing with your spouse—or anyone else, for that matter—the less said the better.

6. Religion. Many so-called religious people are not very spiritual people. The more someone tells me how religious they are, how honest they are or how great they’re, the less I tend to believe them.

7. The sequence is Be, Do, Have—not Do, Have, Be. If I become the person I wish to become, I can do more of the things I want to do and have the things I want to have. Reversing the order is not very effective and it’s not fulfilling.

8. Age has little to do with maturity. I know some very young people who demonstrate great maturity. On the other hand, I’ve met 10-year-olds who’ve had more than 40 birthdays.

9. It’s a lot easier to refrain from saying something than it is to take it back after you’ve said it. In fact, you can never really take something you’ve said back. Like an arrow released from a bow—it cannot be called back. I’ve always remembered this little prayer: "God, help me to make my words this day tender and tasty for I may have to eat them."

10. There’s more to balance than not falling over. I think Ben Franklin said it best, "Nothing to excess." Too much of anything is not a good thing.

11. Air travel. Always try to reserve a seat in an exit row. You get more leg-room and in the event of an emergency, you won’t have to think about where the nearest exit is. Also, planes are easier to catch BEFORE they take off.

12. Having thoughts is not thinking. It’s much more than that. Thinking is hard work—perhaps that’s why so few people engage in it. Voltaire wrote, "No problem can stand the assault of sustained thinking."

13. Thou shalt not should on thyself or others. This is the eleventh commandment. Many people blame others for holding them back. Truth is, we’re usually the quickest to put ourselves down. We shouldn’t "should" on ourselves.

14. Have a soft heart but maintain a thick skin. And never mix them up.

15. Shortcuts seldom work. Perhaps Beverly Sills said it best when she wrote, "There are no shortcuts to any place worth going."

16. Personal responsibility. People who have personal responsibility are very rare indeed. Most people want to fix the blame rather than fix the problem.

17. Comfort. On the road to comfort, one must be willing to sometimes be uncomfortable.

18. Clear agreements. With a written agreement, you have a prayer. With a verbal agreement, you have nothing but air. Clarity leads to power and having clear agreements—and keeping them—makes for better relationships.

19. When you're walking on bullshit it's easy to slip up. It's not only slippery—it stinks. And other people smell it. No one has a good enough memory to be an excellent liar.

20. Success is not an accident. If you develop the HABITS of success, you will make success a habit.

21. You can be right or you can be happy. If we’re determined to be right and we try to have everyone think we’re right, we’ll give up a good deal of happiness.

22. There’s no harm in asking. The story goes that years ago, one of the leading Rockefeller women was propositioned by a party crasher. Embarrassed and offended, the woman took her case before the New York courts. The final judgment: "There’s no crime in asking". If you have little to lose and much to gain by asking—by all means, ask.

23. Knowledge. Facts are cheap, information is plentiful—knowledge is precious.

24. It's never boring to listen to someone tell the truth. When people are speaking from the heart, you can't help but be interested, regardless of the content or whether or not you agree with them.

25. Inspiration is the art of breathing in. The only thing that has to be done today is to breathe.

26. Pleasurable reading. It's better to curl up with a good book and a good woman than a good book.

27. The science of appreciation. If you learn to appreciate more of what you already have, you will find yourself having more to appreciate.

28. Never give up. Perceived failure is oftentimes success trying to be born in a bigger way. This maxim kept me going in some of my darkest hours and it has proved to be true.

29. Kinship. Family relationships are a great laboratory for personal growth. Being related hardly insures relatability.

30. Self-confidence. Confidence isn't something that you get. It's something you are.

31. Old dreams never die; they just get filed away. So often people tell me that they don’t have any dreams. What it usually means is that they have either not paid attention to them or they have put them so far out of mind, they cannot recall them easily. But they can.

32. It's important; but it's not serious. Life is too important to take too seriously. I’ve heard that angels fly because they take themselves lightly.

33. A successful day: to learn something new; to laugh at least 10 times; to lift someone up; to make progress on a worthy goal; to practice peace and patience; to do something nice for yourself and another; to appreciate and be grateful for all your blessings.

34. Happiness is lasting, pleasure is fleeting. There’s nothing wrong with pleasure; it’s just not something to pursue in the false belief that it will buy us happiness.

35. Charisma can kill. All through history, highly-evolved people have always been, at the very least, misunderstood. They have been criticized and condemned and, for the most part, have been killed.

36. Making demands. If you ask something of someone and you are upset over his or her response, then it wasn't a request, it was a demand.

37. Your progress is hindered to the degree that you are upset about where you are. If you’re in Chicago and want to get to LA, it does no good to be upset about being in Chicago. In fact, it detracts from your ability to get to LA. What is, is.

38. Do it now! Ideas are worthless. Intentions have no power. Plans are nothing . . . unless they are followed with action.

39. Spiritual Principle is much like the wind. It is neither good nor bad and you must know how to use it. You can be run aground or use it to move you where you want to go.

40. Happiness is a choice. You have a choice to be happy or unhappy. Since you must be one or the other, why not choose happiness?

41. Art Linkletter was right. Kids will say the darnedest things—and usually at the darnedest time. Like when Will (five at the time) introduced me to everyone in the supermarket checkout line and then announced to everyone in the store that I had plastic teeth (my temporary bridge).

42. Today's action becomes tomorrow's habit. Emerson was right (wasn’t he usually), "Sow a thought and you reap an action; sow an act and you reap a habit; sow a habit and you reap a character; sow a character and you reap a destiny."

43. Insanity really is hereditary. You get it from your kids.

44. We never do what we HAVE to do. We always do what we want to do. It just SEEMS like we have to.

45. There is a price for success. But there is also a price for failure. Given the choice, the price of success clearly has the best return on investment.

46. Courage. A person with some doubt but taking action is better than one with no doubt taking no action.

47. There’s no need to prove we’re valuable. We just are. We do not take action to gain or prove we are valuable; we take action to gain results and discover more of who we already are.

48. Everything I do, I do to make my heart sing. OK, I haven’t always done this and I don’t always do it now—but I try.

49. Leaders are readers. It does not follow that all readers are leaders, but today, all leaders must be readers. Reading can be a powerful catalyst for thinking; it has the potential for stimulating wisdom.

50. Use your head, but live in your heart. I’ve gotten into big trouble by going with my head instead of listening to my heart. I’ve also mistaken my emotions for my heart. But I’ve never, never been misled by my heart.

51. The only way to truly have what you want is to give up having to have it. As soon as you let go of HAVING to have something, it no longer is elusive but rather seeks you out. There’s nothing wrong with wanting something, it’s HAVING to have it that messes you up.

52. When you learn something, share it with at least three people on different occasions and it will be yours. It’s one of the great riches of life is that you can give away all your knowledge and still keep it for yourself.

53. Questions are the answers. Getting the right answers is only possible when you have asked the right questions.

54. Get it done. There are no honorariums for people to get up and tell how they didn't do it.

55. Writing. Good writing is clear thinking made visible.

56. Conquer your fears. Otherwise, your fears will conquer you. Fear has killed more dreams and sidetracked more success than anything else I know.

57. It’s hard to be a prophet in your hometown. People expect an expert to get off a plane. Heck, even Jesus had to get out of Nazareth.

58. Becoming. It matters little what road we take. What’s really important is what we become on the journey.

59. Happiness is an inspiring goal. You can only be happy when you are in the process of achieving a goal. Without a goal there can be no accomplishment. Without accomplishment there is no meaning—no satisfaction. Humans were created for accomplishment.

60. If I can always find a way to survive, then I have the same skills it takes to thrive. Once I realized this, my life started to get much better—and easier. I started to apply my skills in a new direction.

61. It's expensive to be a maverick. Starting new things, being the first to do something or to do it in a new way takes time, patience and usually money.

62. Who you are speaks so loudly I can’t hear what you say. It's not so much what you say, but who you're being that communicates.

63. Be practical. Some people are so heavenly minded, they’re no earthly good.

64. The high road. Doing the right thing is seldom the easy thing.

65. When raising kids, you have two choices: you can be popular or you can be a parent. You can’t be both—at least not until they get older and wiser.

66. It doesn’t take guts to quit. Anyone can quit—and most people do—on their dreams and on themselves.

67. Winning isn’t everything, but it’s close. And it’s definitely more fun.

68. Our job is to decide; the Universe's job is to provide. The mere act of getting clear on what we want initiates a whole string of events, circumstances and ideas that never would have happened had we not decided. By gaining clarity and choosing clearly what we want, we charge the Universe with tasks, opportunities and situations that bring about what we desire. The world manifests according to our request.

69. Marriage. The decision to marry and the person you choose to marry is probably the most important decision you will make in your entire life.

70. Money’s good. Money isn’t everything but it sure beats NO money. Money’s not evil, it’s the LOVE of money that’s evil. Use money and love people—never the other way around.

71. Good judgment comes from experience. Where does one gain experience? Yup, bad judgment.

72. You can be serious about something without being grim. Life’s too short and too precious to spend it being grim.

73. TV is both a blessing and a curse. It has the potential—and does in some instances—of providing great value. But for the most part it’s an incredible waste of time. I call TVs EIRs—Electronic Income Reducers.

74. If you’re going to laugh about it later, you might as well laugh about it now. We usually take our problems way too seriously. Most of the predicaments we get into become stories we tell and laugh about for many years. So if we’ll find it funny then, we might as well laugh about it now.

75. Life is short. When you’re a kid, time flies when you’re having fun. When you get older, time flies whether you’re having fun or not.

76. We can achieve anything we want—we just can’t have EVERYTHING we want. It’s too big a world, there’s too many things, too little time and not enough energy to have everything we desire. We have to be selective.

77. To me, mediocrity is failure. There’s no inspiration in being average. Average is being the worst of the best or the best of the worst—otherwise known as the cream of the crap.

78. Some days you’re the bug. Some days you’re the windshield. Nobody’s ever lead a perfect life. There are no bad days; some are just better than others. Some days are sunny, some days are cloudy and some days you just have to wonder. I like to think that any day above ground is a good day.

79. Regrets. I have some regrets about some things I’ve done. But I have far more regrets about things I DIDN’T do. Most people would describe me as a risk-taker, but if I were to do it all over again, I’d spend even more time between the trapezes.

80. It only takes three points of view to create some reality. What someone thinks of you isn’t that important. However, if one person calls you a horse, you can ignore it. If two people call you a horse, you might want to listen. If three people call you a horse, you’d better consider buying a saddle.

81. Learning. No one’s ever argued with me when I’ve quoted Bucky Fuller who said, "You can’t learn less."

82. There is no gravity, the earth just sucks. I saw this written on a bathroom wall at UVM in 1981. I had to throw SOMETHING in here that wasn’t positive—or even true. Besides, I wanted to get to 101.

83. We must discover and live out the best that’s within us. I’m not sure who wrote this, but I believe it. "If I bring forth what is inside me, what I bring forth will save me. If I fail to bring forth what is inside me, what I bring forth will destroy me."

84. You find what you’re looking for. Whether you’re looking for something good or bad, you usually find it. The Universe reveals to us what we focus upon. Look for faults in others and you will surely find them. Look for the good in others and you will see them. Look for excuses, you’ll find them. Look for solutions and you will find THEM.

85. It’s your attitude more than your aptitude that determines your altitude. This is a Ziglarism—and one I believe in wholeheartedly.

86. Ride the horse in the direction it’s going. I won’t say there’s never a time to buck the trend and go a different way. However, I’ve found myself swimming upstream unnecessarily a number of times. It’s easier to go with the flow as long as you can be true to your values. On the other hand, to lead a symphony, you must occasionally turn your back on the crowd.

87. It rarely does any good to complain. When you complain, 90% of the people don't care and 10% are glad. Whiners have mental BO. Remember, no statue has ever been built of a critic.

88. An upset is an opportunity to see the truth. I don’t always immediately remember this when faced with an upset. But I do eventually look for what the upset can reveal to me. It’s given me great insights.

89. We teach people how to treat us. By accepting and tolerating the way others treat us, we tell them it’s OK. When we no longer allow others to treat us poorly, we have trained them and enhanced our standing—with them and ourselves.

90. Nolo Illegitimi Carborundum. Translation: don’t let the bastards get you down. Everything sounds more profound if it’s in Latin. Listen to your heart—not the fears, jealousies and limiting beliefs of others.

91. Correction without invalidation. Being able to see ourselves clearly is a valuable trait. Being able to look at what we’ve done and left undone and make corrections without invalidating who we are is rare. A good question to ask ourselves is, "What kind of a world would this world be if everyone in it was just like me?"

92. When who you are is what you do, then when you don't, you ain't. As a hard-working entrepreneur, I’m still working on this one.

93. Failure is feedback. And feedback is the breakfast of champions. And I’ve eaten many breakfasts. They say that what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. I complete my 50 circumnavigations of the sun much stronger indeed.

94. Dreams are some of the most powerful things on the planet. They have overcome great obstacles. They have inspired greatness in others. They make us stronger and better people. They sustain our spirit. Happy are those who dream dreams and are willing to pay the price to make them come true.

95. People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care. I’ve wasted a lot of time and energy trying to learn more and teach more and sometimes tried to impress people with what I know. But it’s caring that makes the difference.

96. Facts tell, stories sell. Teaching (or selling) by telling stories is the most effective way to impart information. Jesus was a great storyteller. It’s over 2,000 years after He shared His parables, and they’re still being told today.

97. The past does not equal the future. Most people operate out of their personal history instead of living into the possibility of what they can imagine. What’s behind us has only as much impact as we’re willing to let it. The hardest thing to learn in life is which bridge to cross and which bridge to burn.

98. Mastery is putting it all together. One who works with his hands is a laborer; one who works with his hands and his head is a craftsman; one who works with his hands, his head and his heart is a master.

99. In order to avoid criticism, say nothing, do nothing and be nothing. If you’re going to accomplish anything in this world, you’ve got to be able to handle the opinions of others. Dogs don't bark at parked cars. It’s a fact that people who want the most approval get the least and people who need approval the least get the most.

I love what Lincoln wrote, "I do the best I know how, the very best I can; and I mean to keep on doing it to the end. If the end brings me out all right, what is said against me will not amount to anything. If the end brings me out all wrong, ten angels swearing I was right would make no difference."

100. "Anything the human mind can conceive and believe, the human mind can achieve." This was written by Napoleon Hill and it’s always stuck with me. If one person has done it, so can you. If no one has done it you can be the first. If you can conceive it and believe it you can achieve it.

101. Learning goes both ways. I can learn as much from my children as I can teach them. Probably more.

I think it will be interesting to review this list 25 years from now—and hopefully 50 years from now. By then I’ll have even more to add. I end this writing with one of my favorite quotes by Father Alfred D'Souza:

"For a long time it has seemed to me that life was about to begin; Real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be got through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life."

Namasté

(the highest in me salutes the highest in you).

Copyright © 2001, Michael Angier


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